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Support Builds Friendships

In many of the books I read the women are helping each other with chores and whatever else. The thought of “we’ll get it done quicker, together” ever present. I believe having someone to help you complete a task also makes it more enjoyable, it gives you someone to talk to and laugh with. This support builds friendships.

I think that even in today’s world this is true. No, we’re not out helping one another with the laundry or the cooking, but there are things we do that help each other. Let me give you some examples:

  1. Your good friend is $100 shy of earning an all expenses paid vacation -so you rally together with others and order some make up from her to make it happen.
  2. A family member is going through a medical issue and has set up a GoFund me account – you spread the word.
  3. Someone you know has lost someone they love and a pray chain has begun, you join in.
  4. A community member lost their home and belongings in a fire – you rally together to be sure they have clothing and food and such.
  5. A friend of yours has started a new business and needs help getting it out there, again you spread the word.

See what I mean? We may not be gathering together doing laundry or cooking, but the work of many hands is still at play. I’m sure you’ve heard “word of mouth” is the best advertising you can get, right? I believe the “many hands” and “word of mouth” go hand in hand. They are companions. Like a right leg and a left leg – they support you, hold you up and keep you from failure.

This brings to mind Ecclesiastes chapter 4: Oppression, Toil and Friendlessness.

Oppression = cruel or unjust treatment.

Toil = work extremely hard.

Friendlessness = right leg and left leg are missing, you’ve no support.

We all know we live in a very cruel world. Don’t believe me turn on the news. I hate watching the news or listening to it on the radio. Rarely is there a HEA (happy ever after). Some of it will down right scare you to death. Just this week we had an active shooter not 5 miles from my home! I know I needed to be aware, but my goodness!

People are always going to say and do mean things and for that reason we need a tough skin, but even that doesn’t prevent the damage.

This is a lie and if you believe it you will be greatly hurt. Yes, sticks and stones may very well break your bones, but words are sharper than the sharpest knife. They have more power than you can imagine or perhaps you’ve already learned that life lesson.

People say, “Oh just let it roll of your shoulders” and you try. Then late at night, when you’re all alone those hurtful words replay through your mind like a bad dream stuck on repeat. You tried to protect it, but your heart has taken a painful hit.

You feel as if you have no friends or that the ones you do have don’t really care because they’re telling you to “shake it off“. Ostracized and sad. It’s easy to feel that way when you’ve taken a painful hit. It doesn’t matter your vocation in life, you can be a housewife, a business owner or a millionaire – those painful hits are gonna happen. Which is why we need supporters. We all need friends to help us through the oppression upon our toil.

I know it gets annoying when people ask you to like their Facebook page or add you to a group without your permission. Let me just say, I will never add you to a group without permission, I myself cannot stand that. I will however, invite you to like a page from time to time or share someones page with you. The reason for that is I enjoy supporting my friends as they toil through life. Thankfully, Facebook does give you the option to accept the invite or not. Truthfully, few people realize they have even been invited to like a  Facebook page.

Just this week my youngest sister was asking me about my mountain of journals. I thought she was aware that I am finally putting my brave face on and getting my writing out to the public. I thought I’d told her about it. I did invite her to like my Facebook page months ago. She had no idea or she would have been supporting me.

For a little research, if you are reading this and willing open Facebook on your computer. On the left hand side, scroll down until you see Pages. Click that. It will show you:

  1. Top Suggestions (based on pages you’ve liked)
  2. Invites (this is where you find your friends that are asking for your support)
  3. Liked Pages (ones you’ve liked – you can edit those there as you need to)

I don’t believe you can view this from your phone. I’ve looked and not found it, anyway. Every time I open Pages on my computer I find several invites. Today, there are 7. Now, do I accept every invite? No. However, I do accept those that truly apply to me, like say fellow Authors, writing pages, and coffee pages. We all know how I love coffee.

Now, if you did as I asked – then if you don’t mind leave a comment with the number of invites you had. Did you even know they were there? Makes it kinda hard to support your friends and family if you miss the invitation.

Why am I writing about this? If you’ve visited my website before or my Facebook page, you know that I try my very best to support my fellow Authors. I do this in several ways:

  1. Amazon Review
  2. Goodreads Review
  3. Share via Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest
  4. Review their book on my website
  5. Thunderclap (just learned about this)
  6. Voting – sometimes their cover or book is up for an award
  7. Connect with the Author by tagging them and hash tagging their name and book
  8. Bookbub, BookCave, Instafreebies, Inspired Reads, Pixel of Ink, Kindle Unlimited and E-Discovery.

There is so much you can do to support causes, people and things that are important to you. So many ways you can make them feel less lonely. I’ve read some really nasty reviews out there and I know most Authors avoid reading them because they hurt. I believe people just need to quit their belly achin’ and stop being ugly. I’m positive their Momma’s raised them better.

So why am I telling you about all this?

I want you to understand why you will see this kind of activity from me. Why I write the reviews, share and help promote the way I do. Writing is a solitary adventure. The story that you have within you can only be written by you. That can be lonely and scary and perhaps you find yourself wondering if you’re even doing it right. Connecting with other Writer’s and Author’s makes it a more enjoyable adventure, you have friends of a like mind. In other words, you have found your tribe. Shouldn’t you support that tribe the best way you know how? That’s what I’m doing and someday I hope they’ll return the favor.

It is also, my hope that my kind words will find them and brighten their day from time to time in an attempt to drown out some of the oppression from their toil. Nobody wants to live in a friendless world.

Be Blessed as you Progress.  

If you would like to follow me in my journey you may find me in these locations.

  1. Facebook
  2. Twitter
  3. Instagram
  4. Website
  5. Pinterest


Write Those Reviews

At the beginning of the year I decided that I would not only keep track of how many books I read this year, but I would also be sure to leave every Author a review – as long as I finished the book and could honestly do so.

Why did I decide to do this? Because, I feel the Author was brave enough to put his/her written work out there and a little encouragement can go a long ways. As a writer myself, I have struggled with being brave enough and I also know receiving that little “well done” keeps the pen or keys moving. It feels nice to have some appreciate what you’ve created.

I’ve also connected with many of these Authors on Facebook and they are great people who love to tell stories and they are human, they have feelings too. I’ve had some Authors in the past (years ago) make me feel as if I’d never make it as a writer. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t get to me. It did. It hurt, badly. Times have changed though and today, I consider several Authors my friends. Authors who are willing to speak to me and treat me like Author verses a peon. I also think…this is my friend, I read her/his book, shouldn’t I be a true friend and help promote it? For these reasons and more, I now write the reviews.

I do have a 3 chapter rule and I feel I’m rather lenient with that. I think most Readers give up long before that if the Author hasn’t drawn them in. The reason I have this rule is I have stumbled upon some really great books that just took a little longer to grab me, but in the end grabbed me so hard I couldn’t put it down. And honestly, I love those books! They become the unexpected adventure that pulls at every emotion. They make me feel deeply.

I also planned to write “lengthier” reviews on my website here as a letter to each Author – sadly, I’ve only accomplished that twice and I’ve read far more than 2 books this year. I admit my reading has slowed down a bit due to the fact that I am working on my own novels, but no-the-less I’m still reading.

I have left reviews at the end of each book. I love how reading on my Kindle allows me to write the review, right there as soon as I finish the book. Sometimes I hold on to it and write it a couple days later, mainly because I tend to finish books in the middle of the night and simply want to drift off to sleep after “the end“. I have found if I just leave the book in my carousel on my device I will remember to write the review. If I delete or remove the book…then oops. Those books usually return and I find myself saying, “I’ve read this“.

Since I’ve failed to write each Author a letter of review – I’ve decided to try and fix that by a serious list of link backs. These links within will take you to either Amazon, Goodreads or the Author’s Facebook page. Don’t be afraid to connect with them or reach out to them – they truly love connecting with their readers.I hope to get back to writing the review letters, I enjoyed that. Life just got in my way for a bit – it tends to do that from time to time.

So if you are looking for something to read…

Jan 2 – Wild West Wedding by Caroline Lee (#9 Rivers End Ranch series) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 8 – Wronged by Sylvia McDaniel (#1 Cuvier Women) ⭐⭐⭐

Jan 8 – Flowers in the Snow by Danielle Stewart (The Edenville Series) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 9 – Penny by Kirsten Osbourne (Orlan Orphans #6) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 10 – Chasing Justice by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #1) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 11 – Cutting Ties by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #2) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 12 – Changing Fate by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #3) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 13 – Finding Freedom by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #4) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 13 – Betty’s Journal by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson 4.5) ⭐⭐

Jan 14 – Settling Scores by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #5) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 15 – Battling Destiny by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson #6) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 15 – Choosing Christmas by Danielle Stewart (Piper Anderson 2.5) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 17 – Wilhelmina by Hildie McQueen (Brides for all seasons #1) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 18 – Phoebe’s Promise by Kay P. Dawson (Oregon Sky #1) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 18 – Audrey’s Awakening by Kay P. Dawson (Oregon Sky #2) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Jan 18 – Ella’s Embrace by Kay P. Dawson (Oregon Sky #3) ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐

Feb 1 – Christmas in Clover Springs by Rachel Wesson (Clover Springs #8) ⭐⭐⭐⭐

Feb 17 – Redeeming Reputation by George McVey (Redemption Tales #1) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Mar 8 – Erin by Rachel Wesson (Clover Springs #9) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Mar 8 – Mail Order Mishap by Barbara Goss (Kansas Brides #1)⭐⭐⭐⭐

Mar 10 – Gunsmoke and Gingham by Kirsten Osbourne, Amelia C. Adams, Peggy L. Henderson, Kristin Holt and Margery Scott ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐

It appears I took a break from reading until May, I was busy training and participating in a  couple of CrossFit competitions..and that my friend, is exhausting!

May 7 – Wooing in Wyoming by Kirsten Osbourne (At the Altar #11)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 7 – A Twisted Fate by Amelia C. Adams (Kansas Crossroads #12)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 7 – Dear Mr. Vander by Kit Morgan (Mail-Order Bride Ink #4)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 8 – An Unspoken Dream by Amelia C. Adams (Kansas Crossroads #13)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 8 – Oregon Bound by Rachel Wesson (Trails of the Heart #1)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 8 – Oregon Dreams by Rachel Wesson (Trails of the Heart #2)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 9 – Bridget’s Beau by Kirsten Osbourne (Rivers End Ranch #11)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 9 – Cute Cowboy by Pamela M. Kelley (Rivers End Ranch #12)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 10 – Welcome Wagon by Amelia C. Adams (Rivers End Ranch #13)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 10 – Sarsaparilla Showdown by Caroline Lee (Rivers End Ranch #14)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 11 – Mischievous Maid by Cindy Caldwell (Rivers End Ranch #15)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 11 – Baker’s Bob by Kirsten Osbourne (Rivers End Ranch #16)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 12 – Merry Manager by Pamela M. Kelley (Rivers End Ranch #17)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 15 – Santa’s Shopkeeper by Amelia C. Adams (Rivers End Ranch #18)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 16 – The Rancher Takes a Bride by Sylvia McDaniel (#1)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 17 – The Outlaw Takes a Bride by Sylvia McDaniel (#2)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 19 – The Marshal Takes a Bride by Sylvia McDaniel (#3)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 19 – The Christmas Bride by Sylvia McDaniel (#4)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 21 – His Magical Bride by Merry Farmer (#10)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 22 – Blacksmith’s Beauty by Caroline Lee (Rivers End Ranch #19)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 22 – Oregon Destiny by Rachel Wesson⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 24 – An Ivy Tangels by Kari Trumbo (Cutter’s Creek #19)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 24 – The Judge’s Bride by Patricia PacJac Carroll (#1)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 24 – Zebulon’s Bride by Patricia PacJac Carroll (#2)⭐⭐⭐

May 26 – Nolan’s Vow by Linda K. Hubalek (Grooms with Honor #1)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 26 – Elof’s Mission by Linda K. Hubalek (Grooms with Honor #2)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 26 – Angus’ Trust by Linda K. Hubalek (Grooms with Honor #3)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 27 – Healing Love by Sophie Dawson (Cottonwood #1)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 28 – Lord’s Love by Sophie Dawson (Cottonwood #2)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 29 – Giving Love by Sophie Dawson (Cottonwood #3)⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 30 – Redeeming Love by Sophie Dawson & George McVey (#4)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 31 – Redeeming Character by George McVey (#5)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

May 31 – The Pastor’s Replacement Bride by George McVey (#1)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

and we’ve made it to JUNE!

June 2 – His Brother’s Bride by George McVey (#2)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

June 5 – Discovering Dani by Cindy Caldwell (Rivers End Ranch #20)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

June 7 – Leah’s Peace by Sophie Dawson (#1)⭐⭐⭐⭐

June 7 – Hook, Line and Blinker by Jana DeLeon (Miss Fortune Series #10)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

June 7 – Chasing Norie by Sophie Dawson (#2)⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Currently reading…

Rachel Wesson is FAST becoming one of my favorite Authors. She does a great job – such a good job that I’ve not been able to truly focus today because I knew this book had just been released! EEEK! Look for my review soon – like seriously soon, because we all know I won’t get much done until I finish this book. I’ve read several of the same authors recently, so I may swing back through and write them each a little something, we’ll see. Until then, be blessed.

 

 

Oops, I forgot one! Gallant Golfer by Cindy Caldwell (Rivers End Ranch #10)⭐⭐⭐⭐