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Support Builds Friendships

In many of the books I read the women are helping each other with chores and whatever else. The thought of “we’ll get it done quicker, together” ever present. I believe having someone to help you complete a task also makes it more enjoyable, it gives you someone to talk to and laugh with. This support builds friendships.

I think that even in today’s world this is true. No, we’re not out helping one another with the laundry or the cooking, but there are things we do that help each other. Let me give you some examples:

  1. Your good friend is $100 shy of earning an all expenses paid vacation -so you rally together with others and order some make up from her to make it happen.
  2. A family member is going through a medical issue and has set up a GoFund me account – you spread the word.
  3. Someone you know has lost someone they love and a pray chain has begun, you join in.
  4. A community member lost their home and belongings in a fire – you rally together to be sure they have clothing and food and such.
  5. A friend of yours has started a new business and needs help getting it out there, again you spread the word.

See what I mean? We may not be gathering together doing laundry or cooking, but the work of many hands is still at play. I’m sure you’ve heard “word of mouth” is the best advertising you can get, right? I believe the “many hands” and “word of mouth” go hand in hand. They are companions. Like a right leg and a left leg – they support you, hold you up and keep you from failure.

This brings to mind Ecclesiastes chapter 4: Oppression, Toil and Friendlessness.

Oppression = cruel or unjust treatment.

Toil = work extremely hard.

Friendlessness = right leg and left leg are missing, you’ve no support.

We all know we live in a very cruel world. Don’t believe me turn on the news. I hate watching the news or listening to it on the radio. Rarely is there a HEA (happy ever after). Some of it will down right scare you to death. Just this week we had an active shooter not 5 miles from my home! I know I needed to be aware, but my goodness!

People are always going to say and do mean things and for that reason we need a tough skin, but even that doesn’t prevent the damage.

This is a lie and if you believe it you will be greatly hurt. Yes, sticks and stones may very well break your bones, but words are sharper than the sharpest knife. They have more power than you can imagine or perhaps you’ve already learned that life lesson.

People say, “Oh just let it roll of your shoulders” and you try. Then late at night, when you’re all alone those hurtful words replay through your mind like a bad dream stuck on repeat. You tried to protect it, but your heart has taken a painful hit.

You feel as if you have no friends or that the ones you do have don’t really care because they’re telling you to “shake it off“. Ostracized and sad. It’s easy to feel that way when you’ve taken a painful hit. It doesn’t matter your vocation in life, you can be a housewife, a business owner or a millionaire – those painful hits are gonna happen. Which is why we need supporters. We all need friends to help us through the oppression upon our toil.

I know it gets annoying when people ask you to like their Facebook page or add you to a group without your permission. Let me just say, I will never add you to a group without permission, I myself cannot stand that. I will however, invite you to like a page from time to time or share someones page with you. The reason for that is I enjoy supporting my friends as they toil through life. Thankfully, Facebook does give you the option to accept the invite or not. Truthfully, few people realize they have even been invited to like a  Facebook page.

Just this week my youngest sister was asking me about my mountain of journals. I thought she was aware that I am finally putting my brave face on and getting my writing out to the public. I thought I’d told her about it. I did invite her to like my Facebook page months ago. She had no idea or she would have been supporting me.

For a little research, if you are reading this and willing open Facebook on your computer. On the left hand side, scroll down until you see Pages. Click that. It will show you:

  1. Top Suggestions (based on pages you’ve liked)
  2. Invites (this is where you find your friends that are asking for your support)
  3. Liked Pages (ones you’ve liked – you can edit those there as you need to)

I don’t believe you can view this from your phone. I’ve looked and not found it, anyway. Every time I open Pages on my computer I find several invites. Today, there are 7. Now, do I accept every invite? No. However, I do accept those that truly apply to me, like say fellow Authors, writing pages, and coffee pages. We all know how I love coffee.

Now, if you did as I asked – then if you don’t mind leave a comment with the number of invites you had. Did you even know they were there? Makes it kinda hard to support your friends and family if you miss the invitation.

Why am I writing about this? If you’ve visited my website before or my Facebook page, you know that I try my very best to support my fellow Authors. I do this in several ways:

  1. Amazon Review
  2. Goodreads Review
  3. Share via Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest
  4. Review their book on my website
  5. Thunderclap (just learned about this)
  6. Voting – sometimes their cover or book is up for an award
  7. Connect with the Author by tagging them and hash tagging their name and book
  8. Bookbub, BookCave, Instafreebies, Inspired Reads, Pixel of Ink, Kindle Unlimited and E-Discovery.

There is so much you can do to support causes, people and things that are important to you. So many ways you can make them feel less lonely. I’ve read some really nasty reviews out there and I know most Authors avoid reading them because they hurt. I believe people just need to quit their belly achin’ and stop being ugly. I’m positive their Momma’s raised them better.

So why am I telling you about all this?

I want you to understand why you will see this kind of activity from me. Why I write the reviews, share and help promote the way I do. Writing is a solitary adventure. The story that you have within you can only be written by you. That can be lonely and scary and perhaps you find yourself wondering if you’re even doing it right. Connecting with other Writer’s and Author’s makes it a more enjoyable adventure, you have friends of a like mind. In other words, you have found your tribe. Shouldn’t you support that tribe the best way you know how? That’s what I’m doing and someday I hope they’ll return the favor.

It is also, my hope that my kind words will find them and brighten their day from time to time in an attempt to drown out some of the oppression from their toil. Nobody wants to live in a friendless world.

Be Blessed as you Progress.  

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